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Plan what really matters …

Plan what really matters …

Are you tired of reading that old cliché: “think of yourself first, because you deserve it”? Or worse still, a suggestion to leap out of your comfort zone, and invest thousands of pounds on yourself to then “watch the world open up for you”? So, if this kind of speel doesn’t resonate well with you, […]

Let’s get this straight! What is Coaching?

Let’s get this straight! What is Coaching?

It is an extraordinary and unique relationship designed to create a significant impact and sustainable results in ALL areas of a person’s life. It’s a powerful process uniquely designed to create lasting change. It is a profession and one that offers highly qualified experts. Because of the extraordinary benefits of the coaching relationship, to both client and […]

Highly sensitive people or ‘Empaths’ and what you should know

Highly sensitive people or ‘Empaths’ and what you should know

Moving on from my film series on abusive behaviour, I’m going to be looking at what you should know about Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). The word Empath comes to mind too and this is another increasingly more common word for such a type of person. Some people may describe this type of person as someone who […]

Simple conversations that matter

Simple conversations that matter

Our responses to Covid (both physical and mental) are as varied as our individual reactions to the vaccines. For some, it’s no change, for others it has had some effect, for many it has left mind turmoil and some brain fog. The transition through Covid times takes different forms. What have you noticed? Asking some […]

Is this your moment?

Is this your moment?

I’ve been talking to a lot of people recently about their Covid stories, how they are affected, how they are feeling, what has changed for them, what is getting in their way today, what obstacles were there even before Covid, that are still present today? Many had never experienced a coaching relationship and I thought it […]

What makes you think we understand you?

What makes you think we understand you?

In a very open and broad discussion between Human Resources and other Team Leaders, we chewed over the difficulties that were being experienced between some departments, that were clearly due to cultural and language barriers. A complete mismatch of comprehensions amongst a number of cultures in different teams was just causing havoc. How can you get […]

Thank God it’s Friday!

Thank God it’s Friday!

Has it been a tough week? Are you battling with a challenging relationship and you are just not getting through? Nothing you say gets the answers you are looking for and nothing you do gets the right feedback or recognition. You’ve taken on yet a load more monkeys on your shoulder, and your priorities are such […]

Untouchable to adversity – dance like nobody’s watching

Untouchable to adversity – dance like nobody’s watching

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot […]

Behind the thought lies…

Behind the thought lies…

Standing on the platform at Victoria station looking up at the destination board, a man called at me “where are you going love”, I wanted to say “I don’t know really, where do you recommend?” but then I laughed feeling elated at the kindness of the human mind, the spontaneity of thought, the curiosity of […]

Have you come back from your summer holiday feeling like this? You were probably already feeling demotivated, confused, and unheard

Have you come back from your summer holiday feeling like this? You were probably already feeling demotivated, confused, and unheard

Here are 10 reasons why you may be feeling this way and 10 do-able suggestions. 1. You are not showing up daily with the highest possible level of energy, and if we measured your energetic profile, it may be revealingly low.

Establishing boundaries is necessary for physical and emotional safety as well as healthy relationships

Establishing boundaries is necessary for physical and emotional safety as well as healthy relationships

What can happen is that when you have few or very weak boundaries, you develop the amazing talent of self-denial and then compliance plays games with your self-respect and the respect that others have for you.

If asked the question, “What was your greatest pain?” or conversely “What was your greatest love?” What would you say?

If asked the question, “What was your greatest pain?” or conversely “What was your greatest love?” What would you say?

Both questions could mean the same thing when you are looking at pain positively and as some sort of gift. Have you ever dug deep and asked yourself about your childhood or queried who you are today?

Fearing abandonment in adult life

Fearing abandonment in adult life

This common but penetrable fear is one that is close to my heart and that of many others I come across. I was brought up with one parent in one country and one in another and although they adored each other and spent intermittent quality time together, they lived much of their lives apart.

Extroverts make more successful Leaders

Extroverts make more successful Leaders

How do you prefer to recharge you exhausted energy? By relaxing quietly by yourself or interacting with a group of friends? ooking at how you recharge or adversely deplete your ‘energy’ only begins to explain the difference between Introversion and Extroversion preferences.

Do your intentions dissipate into inaction?

Do your intentions dissipate into inaction?

“Obstacles can’t stop you. Problems can’t stop you. Most important of all, other people can’t stop you. Only you can stop you!” There was a time when I would become irritated when I read something like this, but the reality is that it’s true. I was hearing much relief about 2020 being behind us.

Relationship clash…

Relationship clash…

Relationships, whether they be private or professional are the source of considerable stress, but they are also our most powerful source of personal learning and development. Relationships make the most profound catalyst for insight and growth. On a spiritual or religious plane we are all one but on a physical plane.

Calming anxiety is easier said than done and putting your own mask on first can be even harder

Calming anxiety is easier said than done and putting your own mask on first can be even harder

Anxiety appears in several guises and with varied symptoms. It can affect you both physically and mentally and show up in how you behave. However, it’s not always obvious when anxiety is the cause of how you may be behaving differently.

What me?

What me?

Abusive relationships can play a dangerous part in our work relations and particular in a team environment. How do you deal with a bad apple in the cart i.e. a difficult member in a team that seems to be focussed on ruining your image, your reputation, and your good will? One of the most common […]

The power of silence

The power of silence

One of the new ICF’s (International Coaching Federation) coaching competencies is – ‘Embody a Coaching Mindset’ and something came up for me whilst coaching one of my clients this week (let’s call him Simon). I’d like to share this experience: Simon had been talking for some time on a subject that he had said he […]

Untouchable to adversity – dance like nobody’s watching

Untouchable to adversity – dance like nobody’s watching

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot […]

“ARE THERE ANY MANAGERS IN THE ROOM”?

“ARE THERE ANY MANAGERS IN THE ROOM”?

Honoured to be invited to speak to the factory teams at Rolls Royce last year, I talked about how people ‘show up energetically’. We chatted around what happened when people were under a lot of stress; the physical and mental effects and how behaviour visibly changed. They discovered that they each had an Energetic Profile, […]

Let’s get this straight! What is Coaching?

Let’s get this straight! What is Coaching?

It is an extraordinary and unique relationship designed to create a significant impact and sustainable results in ALL areas of a person’s life. It’s a powerful process uniquely designed to create lasting change. It is a profession, and one that offers highly qualified experts. Because of the extraordinary benefits of the coaching relationship, to both client and […]

Say goodbye holidays and hello stress?? So why not plan for it, deal with it and transform it

Say goodbye holidays and hello stress?? So why not plan for it, deal with it and transform it

Whether you are a woman going back to a male-dominated workplace and are dreading the impending struggle. Whether your team is shrinking but the volume of work is rising. Whether your boss is demanding deadlines that cannot be met, or whether you relate to a fear of ‘life as usual’. All of these pressures will […]

Behind the thought lies…

Behind the thought lies…

Standing on the platform at Victoria station looking up at the destination board, a man called at me “where are you going love“, I wanted to say “I don’t know really, where do you recommend?” but then I laughed feeling elated at the kindness of the human mind, the spontaneity of thought, the curiosity of […]

Establishing boundaries is necessary for physical and emotional safety as well as healthy relationships

Establishing boundaries is necessary for physical and emotional safety as well as healthy relationships

How do you know if your personal boundaries are being crossed? It was when I first started learning about boundaries that I realised I had very few to speak of. What can happen is that when you have few or very weak boundaries, you develop the amazing talent of self-denial and then compliance plays games […]

Have you come back from your summer holiday feeling like this? If so, you are absolutely not alone!

Have you come back from your summer holiday feeling like this? If so, you are absolutely not alone!

Have you come back from your summer holiday feeling like this? You were probably already feeling demotivated, confused, and unheard Here are 10 reasons why you may be feeling this way and 10 do-able suggestions: 1.You are not showing up daily with the highest possible level of energy, and if we measured your energetic profile, […]

Emotional intelligence, transforming pain to gift

Emotional intelligence, transforming pain to gift

If asked the question, “What was your greatest pain?” or conversely “What was your greatest love?” What would you say? Both questions could mean the same thing when you are looking at pain positively and as some sort of gift. Have you ever dug deep and asked yourself about your childhood or queried who you […]